I don\u2019t know about you, but I have just met one beautiful and accomplished single woman too many. There are three, no, wait, four, acquaintances on the top of my head, spanning the twenties to the forties, who are stunningly gorgeous, pleasant characters, academic and professional high achievers \u2013 and single. And it\u2019s not that they want to be; they just happen to be single. They would love a man that is a good match for them, but there doesn\u2019t seem to be anyone eligible around.<\/p>\n

What is happening here? Well, Your Economist has three theses on what\u2019s going on. And three antidotes.<\/p>\n

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1. Don\u2019t be too modest<\/strong>. Many beautiful high achievers, I am sure, have been told from an early age to be humble and self-effacing. To counteract the stunner effect with an overdose of modesty, so their classmates and relatives can bear the sight and sound of them. That trick may have worked for social integration, but it is a killer on the dating market. Robust evidence <\/a>shows that popular and outgoing girls are asked out the most. So, darling: get yourself on that pedestal. Be the one to announce the student union activity, the new task force at work, or the new charity project at church. You want to be that girl behind the mic that has all the eyes and ears on it for a moment.<\/li>\n
2. Cast your net widely<\/strong>. If you are ‘rare’ on any trait (rare beauty, rare intelligence, rarely sporty, rare height…) whoever matches you will be equally ‘rare’. If there are not enough eligible people where you roam, roam in other places: go online, visit that aunt on the other coast, let your friends set you up. Let go of the thought that the internet and blind dates are for losers. They are not. They are for choosers.<\/li>\n
3. Make. Time<\/strong>. If you live a lifestyle that only works for a childless single, then that\u2019s what you\u2019ll end up being. If you work endless hours and weekends; if your scarce leisure time is planned out without flexibility, then where will a partner and maybe a family fit in? When will your radar be relaxed and clean enough to register Mr. or Mrs. Right, and recognize them as such?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

   No guarantees. But these three potions should let an eligible\u00a0man or two appear.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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