After Parker J and Burkley M: “Who is chasing whom? The impact of gender and relationship status on mate poaching”, <\/a>Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, May 2009)<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n <\/em><\/span>Single women often complain that ‘all good men are taken’. Now, recent experimental evidence suggests that the logic seems to go the other way: single women think that ‘taken’ means ‘good’<\/span><\/strong>. When single women were asked to evaluate their likelihood to pursue\u00a0 a certain man, based on a brief description of him, the same\u00a0description was evaluated as ‘more pursuable’ when it included the information that the man was attached. In the symmetric experiment, men did not find attached women more pursuable. Also, women in committed relationships did not react positively to the information that the man was attached.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Oups. Single women like to poach attached men?<\/span><\/strong> Ladies, what happened. A variety of reasons may be behind the above finding. One, ‘taken’ signals ‘good’,<\/span><\/strong> as in, another sista evaluated him already and he passed. The authors of this comment<\/a>\u00a0seem to think so. Two, the single ladies in the study were not really ready to commit<\/span><\/strong> (that is why they are single) and therefore unconsciously looked for someone unavailable too. It is quite possible that\u00a0the ladies in the study were indeed special and not very representative,\u00a0because the overall sample did not pass 150 – this is extremely low; a no-go for empirical economists usually.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Dr de Bergerac actually favors the second reason.<\/span><\/strong> A number one rule of dating is therefore: examine yourself if you are truly ready. <\/span><\/strong>Ready for dating, ready for commitment, ready to face approval, and ready to face rejection. If you are not truly ready for any of these, maybe because of past hurts that need healing, then don’t date yet.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" After Parker J and Burkley M: “Who is chasing whom? The impact of gender and relationship status on mate poaching”, Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, May 2009) Single women often complain that ‘all good men are taken’. Now, recent experimental … Continue reading